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Day 26: What is the Purpose?

Detail of Lunaria annua (Honesty) flower

I had coffee with a friend yesterday who asked me what my end goal is.  What is the purpose of this blog?  I had such a hard time articulating my response.  I had difficulty because part of my purpose is intuitive, and I haven’t concretely defined all the aspects of it.  But also, when asked so directly, I stall out of embarrassment.  I expect people to think that what I’m about to say is saccharine or naïve.

The answer is that I don’t want to hurt any more, and I don’t want others to hurt any more.  It seems a good portion of human suffering is avoidable, and that a lot of our suffering is caused by the lies we tell ourselves and the lies we tell others. Continue reading

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Day 21: How to Give Honest (but Friendly) Feedback

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This little social experiment has given birth to some incredible conversations about fear and authenticity.  In one of these conversation a friend recently confided that, as hard as she tries to be honest, she often holds back what she’s thinking for fear of offending someone.

Open Up

That’s a legitimate concern.  In a materialist culture of good-better-best, most people have underlying fears about their worth, and when we’re open about our opinions, we chance to stumble over each others’ deeply buried insecurities.  I know because, a few weeks ago, another friend stumbled over mine. Continue reading

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Day 9: The 100% Honesty Project

Clay Chimenea

It has been a few days since my last Truth Experiment Update and I have oodles to share.   So far, the experience has been mostly positive, though at times, uncomfortable.  I’ll start with the positives.

Honesty and Family

Last Saturday was Cousin Night at Ben’s House.  Picture this: 5 cousins, 2 family friends and a black cat gathered around an outside patio table, lots of beer, a few cigarettes, grilled bratwurst and fire in a terracotta clay chimenea.

I am the first to arrive, followed by my cousin, Kamryn.  With a gleam in her eye, the first thing she says to me is  “Oooh! I have so many questions!!”  Naturally, my cousins  have been following the blog and find the Truth Experiment an opportune time to get me to “spill the dirt”.  I say okay. Continue reading

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